Madonna Louise Ciccone

Influences
According to Taraborrelli, "Almost certainly, the defining moment Madonna's childhood—the one that would have the most influence in shaping her into the woman she would become—was the tragic and untimely death her beloved mother." Psychiatrist Keith Ablow suggests that her mother's death would have had an immeasurable impact on the young Madonna at a time when her personality was still forming. According to Ablow, the younger a child is at the time a serious loss, the more pround the influence and the longer lasting the impact. He concludes that "some people never reconcile themselves to such a loss at an early age, Madonna is not different than them." Conversely, author Lucy O'Brien feels that the impact the rape is, in fact, the motivating factor behind everything Madonna has done, more important even than the death her mother: "It's not so much grief at her mother's death that drives her, as the sense abandonment that left her unprotected. She encountered her own worst possible scenario, becoming a victim male violence, and thereafter turned that full-tilt into her work, reversing the equation at every opportunity."
As they grew older, Madonna and her sisters would feel deep sadness as the vivid memory their mother began drifting, farther from them. They would study pictures her and come to think that she resembled poet Anne Sexton and Hollywood actresses. This would later raise Madonna's interest in poetry with Sylvia Plath being her favourite. Later, Madonna commented: "We were all wounded in one way or another by her death, and then we spent the rest our lives reacting to it or dealing with it or trying to turn into something else. The anguish losing my mom left me with a certain kind loneliness and an incredible longing for something. If I hadn't had that emptiness, I wouldn't have been so driven. Her death had a lot to do with me saying—after I got over my heartache—I'm going to be really strong if I can't have my mother. I'm going to take care myself." Taraborrelli felt that in time, no doubt because the devastation she felt, Madonna would never again allow herself, or even her daughter, to feel as abandoned as she had felt when her mother died. "Her death had taught her a valuable lesson, that she would have to remain strong for herself because, she feared weakness—particularly her own—and wanted to be the queen her own castle."